for GQ, Vogue
with David Bowie, Ville Valo :)) and etc
Book lover, Sherlockian, Genderfluid, all pronouns acceptable
Book lover, Sherlockian, Genderfluid, all pronouns acceptable
I think every writer/artist has that one story/drawing that gets completely skipped over, and they’d never say it aloud, but inside they’re like
'fuck all y'all, that's one of the best things I've done'
plus one story/drawing that everyone loves
'really? that one?'
apparently this rant has struck a chord with people jfc
this is getting ridiculous
This is so true! This should be a meme.
Yes. Oh yes
Hi. so i kinda feel stupid for asking this but could you please explain to me what bisexuality and pansexuality is in simple words. They way i've seen them described on tumblr (and other sites) just completely throws me like something in my brain just isnt clicking ( i have this problem with other subjects too but thats a problem for another day)
Tenere Lupum Aribus Answer:
Bisexuality is attraction to both men and women. Pansexuality is attraction to all sexes and gender identities.I hope that helps clear things up!
Bisexuality is the attraction to two or more genders. This can look like what you described above, but it doesn’t have to.
Pansexuality is the attraction to all genders.
There is definitely room for overlap between the two identities so it really comes down to individual choice in which term makes someone the most comfortable.
Bisexuality DOES NOT MEAN you only date men and women.
I’d never even heard of pansexuality until maybe eight years ago. We just called it bisexuality and it wasn’t gay and it wasn’t straight.
People constantly saying that bi people won’t/don’t date trans* or genderqueer/fluid people is not a helpful thing to say because it’s not true.
Bisexuals get a lot of shit. We don’t need the pan community telling us who we do and don’t date. Honestly I sometimes think that people came up with ‘pan’ just so they wouldn’t have to call themselves bisexual. (I am very frustrated, can you tell?)
I have never once understood what the difference is. I have never had someone explain it to me in a way that made any sense.
This has been a message from a very frustrated bisexual who dates across the spectrum.
imo bisexuality and pansexuality are the same thing. different names for an identical sexuality, the latter simply an updated version to account for the indisputable existence of more than two genders.
yup. they are the same.
pansexuality is just the new term for it
i’m technically bisexual, and trans, and i definitely am attracted to people who fall outside of “men” and “women”
Sorry to suddenly post so very out-of-character for this blog, but there’s some misinformation I need to clear up.
There’s no need for a “new term” for bisexuality, because bisexuality still works fine. Bisexuality has different meanings for different people, but most agree that it’s a sexual attraction to two genders, usually one’s own and another gender. This is different from pansexuality, which is sexual attraction regardless of gender— pansexuals may be attracted to cis, trans, nonbinary, genderqueer, and a multitude of other people, because gender isn’t a deciding factor in whether or not they’re attracted to someone. (Also, many bisexuals often fall in love with people outside of the two main genders they’re attracted to, just like straight people, lesbians, and gay men sometimes do, because gender and attraction are weird and shit happens. There’s no reason why this should instantly ban them from identifying as bisexual, when many monosexuals who find themselves attracted to other genders still keep their preferred labels— as well they should.)
Also, “pansexuality” is hardly a new term. It was used in the early 20th century to describe the theories of Sigmund Freud, who believed that pretty much everything humans do is motivated by sex. Its use to describe a sexual orientation, however, is relatively new, and in my opinion a much better usage of the word.
The reason people claim that pansexuality is a better term than bisexuality is that bisexuality is often interpreted by people (most of whom are not actually bisexual) to mean sexual attraction to men and women only, often incorrectly called an attraction to “both genders”. This is problematic, because it assumes that man and woman are the only two genders and erases everything else. It’s also a ridiculous criticism, because you don’t have to be attracted to someone to acknowledge that their identities are real. I’ve never heard anyone claim that gay men, lesbians, and straight people erase non-binary identities, even those who are attracted exclusively to cisgender people. So why do bisexuals get this criticism all the time?
Claiming that bisexuality and pansexuality are the same thing, or that bisexuals should identify as pansexuals instead, or that all self-identifying bisexuals are problematic is quite biphobic. Policing our identities splits up the bisexual community and harms bisexuals who are told that their identities are oppressive. Bisexual teens already have a higher suicide rate than straight or monosexual teens, so being split up, re-labeled, and told our identities aren’t real hardly helps.
TL;DR: Bisexual = attraction to two genders; Pansexual = attraction to any gender/regardless of gender— but even this should be taken with a grain of salt, because gender, sex, and sexuality are weird and there’s an exception to every rule. Just respect however people choose to identify and you’ll do fine.
Pansexual: A ‘New’ Sexual Orientation? (Although this is one of the ones that claims bisexuals are attracted to just males and females, it’s otherwise good)
A Critical Look At The Word “Pansexual” (This one is a bit problematic because it claims that “pansexual” exists ONLY to erase bi identities. But if you read it as “A Critical Look At Claiming Bisexuals Should All Be Called Pansexual”, it’s a very good explanation.)
Brief correction to the above commentary:
When doing educational posts like this, please spread the more inclusive definitions, as doing otherwise leaves bisexuality open for misconceptions and can imply that bisexuality is inherently binarist. As in, people will see the definition as “attraction to two genders” and immediately jump to the conclusion that it means “men and women.”
The more inclusive definitions (“two or more” and “same and other”) leaves no room for confusion in that regard, as well as avoids alienating bisexuals who are attracted to more than two genders, or even all genders.
It seems like such a small thing, I just feel that the distinction is really important to make.
This lie is a kindness.
John already lost Sherlock, buried him, and never managed to stop mourning him. There was no getting over Sherlock’s death for John, even after two years, and I expect he never really would have got over it if it had been true. When he talks about Sherlock two years on, he looks just as broken as he did immediately after it happened. Sherlock’s death always stays fresh for him, even after he decides to move on. That’s a wound that wouldn’t ever entirely heal, unless Sherlock could do the impossible thing and do what John asked of him: don’t be dead.
The first time, he could.
So this time around, Sherlock knows he’s going to die for real, but keeps that fact from John. He lets John think that after his six months undercover, he’ll have some unknown, new adventure somewhere. And then another, and another. Swashbuckling his way across the planet, getting into scrapes and getting out of them again. Instead of John mourning Sherlock’s death forever, he could imagine him out there somewhere solving crimes, being brilliant, making the world a less dark place. He’d read about mysterious, amazing things in the papers and wonder if it’s Sherlock’s work. For the rest of his life he could image him like that, Sherlock the lone crusader, changing the world, unable to come home, unable to take John with him, but not for lack of wanting to, and not for lack of love. It’s just circumstances beyond their control. He’d be gone, but for John he’d still out there. Missing Sherlock is hard, but mourning him is harder.
Mary can tell when Sherlock is lying, but John can’t, and Sherlock knows it.
Sherlock now understands what his death would do to John. So he very kindly gives him something better.
This is physically exhausting and painful.
Okay, but consider this:
S1 ended with John and Sherlock thinking they were going to die together, but then they didn’t, and it took them a good couple months to find their feet again before taking on their first major case since that night, during which John was…
So, there’s a writing advice post going around. I’m not going to link to it for various reasons, but there’s a conversation happening there about women having multiple orgasms being “unrealistic” and how there has to be a specific reason (like an aphrodisiac or something) for it…